thank u, next

I always thought the men I was dating or involved with were ruining me for the next man; breaking my heart and spirit over and over, while I was making them better for the next woman. But now, I realize they were teaching me how to better for the next man.

So to my exes…look what I got, look what you taught me:

One taught me people that care about you want to hear your feelings
One taught me how to leave with grace
One taught me how to dream bigger and work harder to achieve my goals
One taught me how to negotiate money matters and to be firm
One taught me I’m the light, don’t dim it for anything or anybody
One taught me why Acts of Service is my love language
One taught me living together does not mean we have to get married
One taught me to love my spontaneous nature and continue to YOLO
One taught me the importance of mental health in the Black Community
One taught me to trust my gut…always
One taught me how to handle being called on out my shit
One taught me love
One taught me patience
One taught me pain (ok, a few of your critters did. But the pain was useful)

Now I’ve got so much love
Got so much patience
I’ve learned from the pain
I turned out amazing
And for that I say,
thank u, next.

I’m so f*cking grateful for my ex(es)
(And super grateful for Ariana Grande’s, “thank u, next” song that inspired this post.)




What have you learned from your previous encounters that make you say, thank you, but, NEXT?!

One thought on “thank u, next

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s